What IS the difference, for example, between a Resolution and a Goal?
In my opinion, resolutions are set easily and JUST AS EASILY given up on! Research shows that 88% of resolutions are broken within 30 days. Goals, however, are difficult to set because they have the quality of accountability that is missing in resolutions.
A properly set goal will include a specific and measurable description of WHAT is to be ACHIEVED and BY WHEN it is to be achieved! Sounds simple, but in reality it is fear of failure, scrutiny from others, and ignorance to the importance of effective goal setting that are all barriers to setting them in the first place! Research shows that, despite our knowing that successful people set goals, only 3% of our population will set and write down goals.
January is full of talk about New Year’s Resolutions and goal-setting for the coming year, but when you truly “mind the gap” between goals and resolutions you must answer these questions: Are you planning on being among the successful 3% of our population that sets and achieves ambitious goals? Or will you be found among the 88% of people who set and break trivial resolutions?
We know that goal setting is the proper choice, and we also know that goal setting is very difficult to do on one’s own. Get A Klu has helped 1000’s of people move from Resolutions to Goals the setting AND the achieving!
During our 2015 SMAART Goal Setting Webinar, you?ll be encouraged to Mind The Gap between goals and resolutions.
We will:
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To Your Success!
Jeffrey Klubeck, M.A.
During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to see and beware of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, is a 2-minute focus on the valuable difference between words or concepts that, without much thought, are used interchangeably, a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!
What IS the difference, for example, between Playing to Win and Playing not to Lose?
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I watched a LOT of sports as a kid, and I remember once watching the Rams playing against the Falcons. The Rams had a big lead that grew smaller and smaller as the game moved on.
Finally, late in the 4th quarter, I remember one announcer saying that the Rams, have gone into their “Prevent Defense”, referring to a strategy of positioning that focused only on NOT letting the Falcons cross the goal line/end zone. The ONLY thing the defense was designed to do was to prevent scoring!
The other announcer quickly and cynically added, “Sometimes that prevent defense prevents you from winning!” And that is exactly what happened to the Rams. They lost. The ONLY thing they were focused on was the EXACT thing that occurred.
Has this ever happened to you? You get SO focused on preventing something from happening that it’s as if you are actually making it happen!
Well… you are!
Legendary speakers from Brian Tracy to Tony Robbins have always reminded us that, we become what we think about and that what we focus on BECOMES our reality. So, I ask, why don’t more people focus on what they DO WANT? Why are so many people consumed with preventing negatives in their life instead of CREATING POSITIVES?
Mind the Gap!
- Playing to win is an act of courage and is focused on the outcome we DO want.
- Playing not-to-lose is an act of fear and focused on the outcome we DON’T want.
The Difference is HUGE isn’t it?
Do you know what you DO want? Do you have goals?and are they written down?
I ask because we know that Ivy League studies conducted on the topic of human performance support the fact that ALL HIGH ACHIEVING INDIVIDUALS set goals! Yet, despite knowing this ONLY 3% of our population takes time to set and write down their goals.
Like Public Speaking, it seems that people are more afraid of Goal Setting than death since 97% of our population NEVER takes the time to set goals. In fact, some people go an entire lifetime without writing down a single expression of something they want to achieve and BY WHEN they want to achieve it.
To Your Success!
Jeffrey Klubeck, M.A.
During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door?literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!
What IS the difference, for example, between Anxious and Nervous? ?
When I mind the gap between anxious and nervous? I see terms like confidence, suspicion, eagerness, avoidance, preparation and sabotage; see the pattern of dichotomy?
There are two main definitions of “anxious” and the first of which is very much aligned with “nervous”, “worry” and particularly marked with unease?it is clearly a focus on something we DON’T WANT. ?The second definition, however, focuses on what we DO WANT! When we are ?anxious? to do something, we are eager, confident and to some degree more/better prepared for that event or experience. In turn, nervous is the condition that breads suspicion, avoidance and ultimately degrees of sabotage to the event or experience.
In Life and Business, we are constantly faced with situations that are problems if we are Nervous but opportunities if we are Anxious two sides of the same coin, really but for the actions or experiences that will lead to your growth, what is it that determines which one will you de-side nervous or anxious? The ?nervous person anticipates and seeks to avoid their PAIN and is uncomfortable/unwilling to be vulnerable while the anxious person anticipates and seeks to further their growth completely willing to be vulnerable.
So, Mind the Gap: Nervous is born of Fear and Anxious is born of Love!! The difference is HUGE isn’t it?
Well, the consequences can be even bigger! When love (the willingness to be vulnerable in exchange for growth) has the larger influence on your decision making than fear (the unwillingness to be vulnerable), you are much more likely to stand out, get ahead, take risks, learn more quickly and further the actions that lead to your successes. And, it works the other way with Fear.
Get A Klu believes that there are two kinds of pain: Legitimate and Illegitimate! Legit pain leads to our Growth its the pain of learning, making mistakes, taking risks, having to re-do things, experiencing loss, uncertainty and set-backs all of the pain associated with taking action towards goals and dreams. The other kind of pain is the Illegitimate pain that PREVENTS our Growth its the pain of regret, remorse, hopelessness, self-pity, inadequacy, dread, worry, and persecution all of which is associated with having goals and dreams but doing NOTHING about them!
Coaching is an amazing resource to help successful people embrace potential growing pains to get ANXIOUS about the work it will take to grow to renew an eagerness and confidence to prepare for the action/risk- taking that will lead to your personal and professional growth!
When you think about getting to the next level in Life, Career or Business do you get Nervous or Anxious? Consider discussing your goals and dreams with a Get A Klu Certified Coach! The 1st Two Sessions are on us!
To Your Success!
Jeffrey Klubeck, M.A.
What IS the difference, for example, between Coaching and Consulting?
The terms get confused a lot. In fact, I even see Coaching confused for Consulting BY the service providers themselves but there are some key differences that may help you in your career or business!
The focus for a coach is to get you to improve yourself, but you have to do the work. A coach will motivate you to grow as a person. Coaching is also a form of consulting (another reason the terms get confused). But the coach stays with the client to help implement the new skills, changes, and goals to hold the client accountable. It is the Relationship that is the foundation of coaching. The coach and client intentionally develop a relationship, which is characterized by a mutual appreciation, respect, and shared commitment to the client’s results.
A consultant on the other hand helps you improve too, but he or she is doing work that you don’t want to do. A consultant is helping your company grow in areas you don’t have time to deal with, but you’re not necessarily growing as a person because someone else is doing the work. In a sense, it is “the contract” thatis the foundation of consulting. The consultant provides tangible results by completing projects, creating content, setting up specific systems, etc. all for an agreed upon rate. The exchange of value is money for work performed by the Consultant.
Growth is the common factor here, but the difference lies in where that growth is happening.
Sports analogies are always great, so let’s look at this in terms of the sports world.
Sports players have coaches. The coaches work hard to train, motivate and improve the players. This happens through setting up practices, preparing tapes to watch, and creating work outs. Even though the coach, is organizing everything, the players physically have to work out, and they are personally growing.
Coaches, and upper level management on the other hand, often hire consultants to come in and structure the sports franchise, recruit players and ensure the finances are in place. The consultant is doing all the work here. The organization as a whole is still growing through getting a better team, having a stronger financial background, and overall being more buttoned up. Notice though, that the focus of growth here is for the organization as a whole rather than individuals…even though the individuals may grow with the organization, the target for growth is the organization.
When you think about this in terms of your business and how to decide if you need to hire a Coach, Consultant or sometimes, even both, figure out your long term goals. If you want to personally keep doing specific tasks, and get better at them, but need accountability, a Coach may be right for you. If you know there are tasks that need to get done, but you just don’t want to deal with them, a Consultant may be the better option.
Next time you hear someone call themselves either a Coach or Consultant, find out the services they offer and see if their offerings truly match up to either term. You can also check out my style of coaching, and learn what I offer to clients by signing up for 2 free coaching sessions HERE.
Meanwhile, thanks for reading another edition of Mind the Gap!
During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to see and beware of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, is a 2-minute focus on the valuable difference between words or concepts that otherwise used interchangeably from appearing similar.
During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to see and beware of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, is a 2-minute focus on the valuable difference between words or concepts that otherwise used interchangeably from appearing similar.
What IS the difference, for example, between Teaching and Training?
First of all, why are they similar? Because teaching and training both involve LEARNING! It’s not as philosophical as asking “does the fallen tree make a “sound” in the forrest if no one is there to hear it?” when I ask:
“If no learner is present or no learning has occurred, can it be said that either teaching or training HAS?”
Of course not! So, learning if a necessary component for both why not just call teaching and training “learning” instead of teaching or training? Why are there different words for “learning”? Well, its kind of obvious that teaching is about “knowing” and 
training is about DOING! For me, its deeper than that. When I really MIND THE GAP to seek value in that difference, it all comes down to Accountability and the worthlessness of teaching WITHOUT training! Let me explain…
Some people in the world learn just for learning’s sake…the information itself IS the reward, so a “grade” has no power of accountability in those cases. Otherwise, without also training, the highest and best reward of being “taught” is getting a letter grade.
“The goal in teaching is what the learner “gets”…whereas with training, the goal is about what the learner can now “do/give”!
MIND THE GAP: We can never train without teaching while we CAN teach without training! But, WHY? Why teach at all without ALSO Training?
Not only can teaching make NO GUARANTEE that the learner will continue to “know” what they have learned, but there is also NO CHANCE of ensuring that the learner will now be able to DO something they were previously unable to do. And, it may seem that Teaching has accountability through quizzes, assignments, exams and, most importantly, due dates and terms (semester, quarter, etc.), but what can be “known” can also be forgotten! Worse yet, ?because “getting a good grade” is the goal, students will: cram, cheat, lie, beg and actually commit fraud to “get a grade”…all the while learning NOTHING! Most of my students admit to forgetting an aced final exam’s worth of “knowledge” in less than 72 hours after the exam (achem, in their other classes, achem). 🙂
When the only thing you are held accountable for (being taught) is “to know” something…the only thing you are really learning is how to remember and forget something. However, once you are “trained” to ride a bike, you’ll “know” forever!
Jeff Klubeck Creates a Training Video
I believe that no matter where you’re at in your life or career, it’s important to be a lifelong learner…but it is even MORE important to be a lifelong TRAINEE! Always ask yourself “What will I be able to DO after this learning experience that I cannot DO now?”
Unless you are part of the 1/7 (one seventh) of our population that values learning JUST for learning’s sake (and even if you ARE), I urge you to make sure there is a “training” component to everything you are taught. Hold your learning experiences accountable to making sure YOU can be held accountable to apply that knowledge to a better life, business or career AFTER the learning has been learned.
Teaching alone can’t promise “application”, the learning MUST include training to do that!
So, what are YOU doing to sharpen your saw? How are you staying competitive and “hirable” through the acquisition of skills and abilities you previously didn’t have? I’d love to hear from you about your experiences and how you choose to learn. Click here for a summary/sampling of private or workplace trainings we provide and CLICK HERE for some free training content on how to hold yourself and others accountable….and, as always, thanks for reading another edition of Mind the Gap!