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Mind the Gap: Happiness vs. Joy!

Mind the Gap:  Happiness vs. Joy!

During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between Happiness and Joy?happiness vs joy

A great way to “Mind the Gap” between happiness and joy would be to focus on the dichotomy of internal vs. external, or the temporary vs. the lasting? NOT that these dichotomies are opposed, per se.

Yet, happiness is the state of mind that is a reaction to something EXTERNAL. You got or witnessed or tasted something that made you feel happy. The feeling is GREAT, but not lasting! The feeling comes when someone or something OTHER THAN YOU does something that makes you happy!

Joy is also an emotion/state of mind, but its origins and causes live INTERNALLY as a function of having done something significant in, of, for and by OURSELVES! Joy is lasting, contagious and productive. ?Joy rises in status above and beyond a pure emotion as a RESOURCE that lives in an accessible way inside of us. It?s there inside of you right now!

STOP waiting around for others to make you happy! START a habit of looking within and asking yourself what you are proud of, or grateful for in your life. Seriously, do it now. What are you proud of and grateful for?keep-calm-and-look-within-1Do you feel that? When you look within through the lenses of self-love, self-compassion and gratitude, you will have tapped into the magnetic, attractive, contagious and productive emotion of JOY!

My great friend and professional colleague, Michael Anderson, is the founder of Executive Joy!, a public speaking, executive coaching and workshop company dedicated to helping highly driven, successful Business Professionals?experience greater Joy (and success) in their lives!

Michael hired me in late 2012 to help him launch his Speaking career and in turn, has opened many professional doors for me as well. Working with Michael and watching his growth has made me happy, and now it also gives me GREAT JOY to promote his #1 best selling book, The Experiment!, theexperimentan exciting and modern business fable that promises to teach all of us the transformational life skills that Michael learned while pursuing his Masters in Spiritual Psychology skills that he has now taught to dozens of Business Professionals around the world.

I hope we get a chance to discuss Michael’s Book so much so that we’re offering two complimentary coaching sessions to anyone who orders Michael’s book! So, even if you have already had your two comp sessions, you get two more with proof of purchase of Michael’s book, The Experiment!

Remember, also, to Mind The Gap between Happiness and Joy and leave your comments or offer the ways you would describe THE difference Happiness and Joy!

To Yours, Cheers!

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Mind The Gap: Jealousy vs. Admiration!

Mind The Gap:  Jealousy vs. Admiration!

During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between Jealousy and Admiration?
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It seems obvious to explain that jealousy is negative, whereas admiration is positive. Both, of course, are reactions to someone else who possesses something we value but do not also possess. But why does jealousy see through lenses of scarcity, while admiration looks through abundantly rose-colored glasses?

When we really put our mind on the gap between jealousy and admiration, starting at one and stretching to the other, we see a continuum of self-esteem and efficacy. This is the degree to which we believe we are worthy, capable, and virtually assured of having the life we want.

The lower our self-esteem and efficacy, the more likely we are to be jealous of another’s possessions and accomplishments. Conversely, the higher our self-esteem and efficacy (the degree to which we believe we can have or achieve anything we want in life) the more likely we are to experience admiration of another’s possessions and accomplishments.

So, Mind The Gap between Jealousy and Admiration! The difference is HUGE, isn’t it?

In much the same way it is impossible to be simultaneously angry and grateful, it also is impossible to feel 100% capable of self-actualization, and at the exact same time react negatively to anyone else’s actualization (possessions, accomplishments, happiness, fulfillment). It is the difference between being threatened by a high-achiever (because they expose our lack of achievement) and being motivated by a high-achiever (because they remind us of our abundant capabilities)!

believe in yourselfIt is in the GAP between jealousy and admiration where our levels of self-esteem ebb and flow.

While both words represent a reaction to someone or something OUTSIDE of ourselves, the real difference between jealousy and admiration is a function of the beliefs INSIDE ourselves! Believing in scarcity, we are jealous and with-out, while believing in abundance we?re in admiration and with-in!

Professional coaching can be of great assistance in shifting from a scarce to abundant mindset. If stinking-thinking is in the way of fulfilling personal or professional relationships, consider talking it over with a Get a Klu Certified Coach? the first two sessions are on us!

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Mind The Gap: Paralyzed vs. Stuck!

Mind The Gap:  Paralyzed vs. Stuck!

WELCOME to Jeffrey Klubeck’s Blog Series: MIND THE GAP!

During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door?literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between Paralyzed and Stuck?

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What is most readily obvious in the similarities between paralyzed and stuck is the description of inaction. Whether fully paralyzed or simply stuck, we are NOT MOVING (taking action, being productive, making progress or growing!). Both describe states of inaction inaction, by the way, being the enemy of personal and professional growth!

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When we really mind the gap, however, and pay attention to the DIFFERENCE between paralyzed and stuck, we see one word: ability and, if two words, add willingness and, if three, I’d suggest courage!

For the one who is truly Paralyzed is UNABLE to move and nothing can reverse that condition. Conversely, the person simply Stuck is COMPLETELY ABLE to move but temporarily blocked from doing so. Whether the block is internal (limiting beliefs, emotional addictions, behavioral patters) or external (business climate, regulations, economy, relationships/partners, competition, etc.) the block is always temporary and never permanent.

So, Mind the Gap! Paralyzed is permanent Stuck is temporary! The difference is HUGE, isn’t it?

While nothing can be done to reverse a true Paralysis, there are a gazillion things that can be done to get you UNSTUCK! Starting with your willingness and courage to face whatever block you must face INCLUDING the humility to receive help even better if you seek/solicit that help! Professional Coaching can be of great assistance in getting people UNSTUCK.images

In fact (in fun), at Get A Klu, we refer to it as KLUBRICATION when our coaching makes it easier for our clients to take action the coaching that reduces friction between yourself and the resting place of your current behaviors. Similar to clean, high performance oil in an automobile (or, lets face it, ANY other analogy you wish to imagine), KLUBRICATION will get you UNSTUCK get you moving into action and will create both greater performance and joy in your personal or professional life!UP_AugSept2012-63

If you are feeling paralyzed chances are what you REALLY are is STUCK! Whether it?s Life or Business blocks (internal or extarnal blocks) that need facing, consider talking it over with a Get a Klu Certified Coach dab a little Klubrication on it and see if that helps CLICK HERE: the first two sessions are on us!

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Mind The Gap: Success vs Achievement

Mind The Gap: Success vs Achievement
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During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware?”of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I hope empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between Success and Achievement?

Success is defined as an accomplishment of an aim or purpose however, all too often, we use the term to describe “status” or the amount of money/things a person has. Who comes to mind when you think of who you know that is “Successful”?success_achievement_status_get_a_klu

Achievement, on the other hand, is defined as things done successfully. Having many/repetitive successes will pave the way towards the achievement! Achievement comes from being successful many times over yet, ironically, achievement does not guarantee one’s success! Who comes to mind when you think of who you know that has achieved something in life achieved something WITH their life?

Mind the Gap! The difference between Success and Achievement is subtle because they are co-dependent. They need each other to exist. And, isn’t it interesting how things can be achieved unsuccessfully (passing class with a “C” is an achievement, even if not a successful one), yet nothing can be achieved without one ore more things being done successfully (even the “C” student succeeds 70-80% of the time)!

But while Achievement is verifiable, Success is a bit more subjective. And THAT difference is HUGE!
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You can believe you have success while others believe you are nowhere close to it!? Or, you may NOT believe yourself to be successful at the same time that millions would literally risk their lives to be YOU! All the while, an achievement is an achievement regardless of the pedigree, honor or heroism ascribed to it, it can be verified and agreed upon when someone achieves something.

The good and bad news is that Success is mostly a state of mind. You can feel successful without physically/tangibly achieving anything, whereas achievement is more tangible. You must see something accomplished, or accomplish a goal yourself in order to have achieved something.

It really all comes down to standards. The standards you set for yourself will determine what you set out to achieve and the degree to which the pursuit and attainment of those achievements will?require and/or bring you success. But until you set standards, the difference between Success and Achievement is truly a “chicken-or-egg” conversation that will most likely get you nowhere!Success vs. Achievement Mind the Gap for Get a Klu

Private Coaching is a GREAT place to get clarity on your standards to become crystal clear on the achievements you most wish to pursue in life/business/career. The difference between Success and Achievement is the standards you set but the difference between setting them and just thinking about them COULD BE effective coaching!

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To Your Success and Achievement!

Jeffrey Klubeck, M.A.

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Mind the Gap: Reasons vs Excuses

Mind the Gap: Reasons vs Excuses
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During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door?literally a matter of life and death! ?Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I hope empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between a Reason and an Excuse?

Do you give reasons or excuses for your actions? When it’s Reasons vs Excuses who do you think wins that battle? Let’s Mind the Gap: Reasons vs Excuses!

Reasons are intelligent explanations for how or why we do particular activities. When we have good reasons in place, we make ourselves accountable for our actions. When we are accountable for our actions, we become owners of the process, and are confident in the knowledge of what is working well, and where we can improve.

You can also think of reasons as motives. When we are motivated, we find good reasons to accomplish things.

Here’s an example of a reason for why something didn’t get done (We’ll go with the simple homework conundrum): I was doing so well on my video game last night that I lost track of time and didn’t do it.

The key ingredient in the example above is use of the pronouns “I” twice (and an implied third time) the term “I” was used. In this example the person not doing their homework, takes responsibility for it. Reasons are REAL!

Now let’s talk about excuses.

Reasons vs Excuses Get a Klu Blog PostExcuses are an attempt to lessen the blame on yourself by attaching the fault to something or someone externally. Excuses are IMAGINED!

Here’s an example of an excuse for why something didn’t get done (We’ll stick with the homework conundrum): My dog ate my homework.

Notice the difference? In the “Reason” for why the homework didn’t get complete, there is no outside blame. In the “Excuse” for why the homework didn’t get complete, the dog was to blame. One person is willing to accept the consequences of their actions and, by definition, the other seeks to “excuse” oneself from the negative consequences of their actions.

Which one would YOU hire partner with invest in select, refer, endorse, befriend, or entrust?

Mind the Gap between Reasons and Excuses! Folks, we have to be accountable for our actions if we want more success in life.

Taking ownership of our choices and behavior will help us identify key areas for improvement. Being honest about the REAL reasons we do or do not take action makes us accountable and when we are accountable, we are able to accept ownership for our mistakes which is the only true way to GROW!

Instead of making excuses to avoid the “unwanted pains” of immediate consequences, seek to embrace the “growing pains” of learning from mistakes, bad choices and other shortcomings.

Reasons vs Excuses Get a Klu BlogIf you are lucky enough to have someone in your life that is willing to ask you WHY you did or did not do the things you need to do in order to succeed, please make sure you look within and answer with the REAL Reasons instead of IMAGINED Excuses!

To Your Success!

Jeffrey Klubeck, M.A.

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