Mind the Gap: Happiness vs. Joy!

Mind the Gap:  Happiness vs. Joy!

During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between Happiness and Joy?happiness vs joy

A great way to “Mind the Gap” between happiness and joy would be to focus on the dichotomy of internal vs. external, or the temporary vs. the lasting? NOT that these dichotomies are opposed, per se.

Yet, happiness is the state of mind that is a reaction to something EXTERNAL. You got or witnessed or tasted something that made you feel happy. The feeling is GREAT, but not lasting! The feeling comes when someone or something OTHER THAN YOU does something that makes you happy!

Joy is also an emotion/state of mind, but its origins and causes live INTERNALLY as a function of having done something significant in, of, for and by OURSELVES! Joy is lasting, contagious and productive. ?Joy rises in status above and beyond a pure emotion as a RESOURCE that lives in an accessible way inside of us. It?s there inside of you right now!

STOP waiting around for others to make you happy! START a habit of looking within and asking yourself what you are proud of, or grateful for in your life. Seriously, do it now. What are you proud of and grateful for?keep-calm-and-look-within-1Do you feel that? When you look within through the lenses of self-love, self-compassion and gratitude, you will have tapped into the magnetic, attractive, contagious and productive emotion of JOY!

My great friend and professional colleague, Michael Anderson, is the founder of Executive Joy!, a public speaking, executive coaching and workshop company dedicated to helping highly driven, successful Business Professionals?experience greater Joy (and success) in their lives!

Michael hired me in late 2012 to help him launch his Speaking career and in turn, has opened many professional doors for me as well. Working with Michael and watching his growth has made me happy, and now it also gives me GREAT JOY to promote his #1 best selling book, The Experiment!, theexperimentan exciting and modern business fable that promises to teach all of us the transformational life skills that Michael learned while pursuing his Masters in Spiritual Psychology skills that he has now taught to dozens of Business Professionals around the world.

I hope we get a chance to discuss Michael’s Book so much so that we’re offering two complimentary coaching sessions to anyone who orders Michael’s book! So, even if you have already had your two comp sessions, you get two more with proof of purchase of Michael’s book, The Experiment!

Remember, also, to Mind The Gap between Happiness and Joy and leave your comments or offer the ways you would describe THE difference Happiness and Joy!

To Yours, Cheers!

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Mind The Gap: Jealousy vs. Admiration!

Mind The Gap:  Jealousy vs. Admiration!

During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between Jealousy and Admiration?
Envy

It seems obvious to explain that jealousy is negative, whereas admiration is positive. Both, of course, are reactions to someone else who possesses something we value but do not also possess. But why does jealousy see through lenses of scarcity, while admiration looks through abundantly rose-colored glasses?

When we really put our mind on the gap between jealousy and admiration, starting at one and stretching to the other, we see a continuum of self-esteem and efficacy. This is the degree to which we believe we are worthy, capable, and virtually assured of having the life we want.

The lower our self-esteem and efficacy, the more likely we are to be jealous of another’s possessions and accomplishments. Conversely, the higher our self-esteem and efficacy (the degree to which we believe we can have or achieve anything we want in life) the more likely we are to experience admiration of another’s possessions and accomplishments.

So, Mind The Gap between Jealousy and Admiration! The difference is HUGE, isn’t it?

In much the same way it is impossible to be simultaneously angry and grateful, it also is impossible to feel 100% capable of self-actualization, and at the exact same time react negatively to anyone else’s actualization (possessions, accomplishments, happiness, fulfillment). It is the difference between being threatened by a high-achiever (because they expose our lack of achievement) and being motivated by a high-achiever (because they remind us of our abundant capabilities)!

believe in yourselfIt is in the GAP between jealousy and admiration where our levels of self-esteem ebb and flow.

While both words represent a reaction to someone or something OUTSIDE of ourselves, the real difference between jealousy and admiration is a function of the beliefs INSIDE ourselves! Believing in scarcity, we are jealous and with-out, while believing in abundance we?re in admiration and with-in!

Professional coaching can be of great assistance in shifting from a scarce to abundant mindset. If stinking-thinking is in the way of fulfilling personal or professional relationships, consider talking it over with a Get a Klu Certified Coach? the first two sessions are on us!

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Mind the Gap: Motivation vs Inspiration

Mind the Gap: Motivation vs Inspiration
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During my visit to London for the 2012 Summer Games I got inspired for a blog series. In the London Underground, “Mind the Gap” is the constant warning to “see and beware” of the space between the platform and the train door?literally a matter of life and death! Boarding my blog, however, this same phrase is a plea to consider the “valuable difference” between words or concepts that otherwise appear quite similar a difference that I am hoping leads us to decisions or behavior that empowers self and others!

What IS the difference, for example, between Motivation vs. Inspiration?

Motivation comes from something we desire to have. Motivation is something that can tug at us, like a force. Inspiration vs Motivation with Get a KluThe word motivation comes from the word motive. People often need a motive, to accomplish a task. For example, if a person is assigned a work task, and is feeling pressed for time, or has too many other tasks that are equally important, they will have to find the motivation to get the task complete. The motivation factor will tug at you to complete the task. To complete the task, a person may have to remind themselves of the motive, or reason for completing the task. The motive may be the employee’s performance review, the satisfaction of completing the task before a deadline, or a possible promotion. In all of this, the person will find the motivating force, or reason to take action. Motives can be created!

On the other hand, inspiration is an internal incentive, or something that comes from within. For example, we may listen to a speaker, and feel emotionally inspired by what they said, because, the speaker was able to awaken inspiration. Inspiration can also come from things we are grateful for.

Here is a perfect quote from the late Dr. Wayne Dyer (R.I.P.): “Motivation is when you get hold of an idea and carry it through to its conclusion, and inspiration is when an idea gets hold of you and carries you where you are intended to go.”

So, MIND THE GAP! Motivation is external, while Inspiration is internal. Furthermore, Inspiration, is an idea where Motivation is a consequence (the positive or negative result from taking or NOT taking action on your Inspiration!).University Club Power Breakfast with Get a Klu

An example from my business would be programs like my Power Breakfast or Happy Office Hours at The University Club downtown. The great business climate and stunning views Get a Klu Power Breakfast at the University Clubat The University Club always provide “inspiration” and the outcomes of our productive conversations provide the motivation to schedule, promote and host them. I know promoting the time I invest at The University Club will give me more chances to connect with clients, prospects, partners, current or former students and friends to provide valuable brainstorming, sound boarding, and coaching tips where appropriate. The Club gives me Inspiration but my meetings with YOU are my Motivation!

I hope that this has been helpful in showing you the difference between Motivation and Inspiration and, of course, I hope to see you at The University Club for my Power Breakfast or Happy Office Hours soon! Until then…

To Your Success!

Jeffrey Klubeck, M.A.

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Retire from Classroom Teaching? It’s Time!

Retire from Classroom Teaching?  It’s Time!
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I thought I would NEVER retire from Teaching!  But after 20 consecutive years of teaching College-level Courses in Public Speaking, Argumentation and Group Communication, I’m hanging up my “Adjunct Professor” hat to retire from the Classroom.

You may be asking “Why is Professor Klubeck going to Retire?”  Well, it really took something as wonderful as tGet A Klu in Sydney Australiahe “International Coach/Trainer/Speaker” hat to get me out of the Classroom.  Since last September one of my favorite clients, JT Foxx and his Top 1% Coaching Organization, has  been giving me assignments ALL OVER THE United States, Europe and Down Under (Including multiple trips to Australia).  So, I guess there reaDream Team Sydney Retirelly is no end in sight to my “teaching” but it IS time for me to Retire from the Classroom!

Now, instead of “adult learners” looking to finish their AA degrees to transfer to a 4-year institution, I am teaching the world’s most driven Entrepreneurs and Global Speakers.  I still maintain a healthy Coaching and Training Calendar with self-generated clients…and I am proud to say that after 10 years in business, Get A Klu has grown into a 6 figure Coaching Practice.  My “brand” has grown like a hockey stick due the the global exposure I have been getting from the JT Foxx Assignments.  And, it just doesn’t make (dollars OR ) sense to continue Classroom Teaching.

Believe me when I say the decision to retire from the Classroom didn’t come easy for me, but if you have been following along with me on social media, you may have noticed that I’m traveling quite a bit.  My coaching and speaking career is now consistently international which has limited my time at home.  And, the amount of classroom time I am missing has become unfair to the Students who miss “the real me” (they watch videos of my lectures for classes that I miss due to travel) and also the administrators that have to “account” for my absences.  It just doesn’t make sense anymore.  Education at every level has a lot of problems to contend with and let’s just say that Adjunct Compensation is one of them.  And, 20 years is a nice round number to make the coping a little easier for me.  I honestly thought I would NEVER retire from teaching College Classes.  I was wrong.
Jeff Klubeck Speaking at SDSUAccountability, Coach Jeffrey, JT Foxx, Speaker
For those of you who know me, you know that I won’t go out without a big bang!  I have an intern currently planning a HUGE RETIREMENT PARTY and I am brainstorming a way to celebrate with as many former students as possible, while also inviting my current sphere of friends, family and professional colleagues.

I am thinking of a date sometime in August 2017 for a 3-phased blowout retirement party at The University Club... here’s what I’m thinking:

  • 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.– We’ll start off the day with Mastermind-style event for 10-20 of Get A Klu’s best VIP Clients.
  • 4pm-6pm- The Klubrication Happy Hour- You haven’t done happy hour unless you have done it Klubeck style. Retire Party Mastermind Get A KluWe’ll enjoy drinks and appetizers on the 34th floor at the University Club Atop Symphony Towers with great views and even better conversation.
  • 6pm-9:00 p.m.– A more classic cocktail party with Drinks, Dancing, Speeches/Roasting and a Keynote by Jeff Klubeck
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    You can join in for the entire day or drop in when you please. The important part is that I celebrate this milestone in my career with important people in my life.  That means YOU!If you are interested in being a Speaker, Mastermind Participant/Panelist, or a Sponsor for the “Professor Klubeck Retirement Party, please send an email to “info@getaklu.net” with the subject:  Retire to Reach Higher!
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Toastmasters powered by Chef Works Inc.

Toastmasters powered by Chef Works Inc.
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I LOVE Toastmasters…and that’s not just because I gave an “award winning” humorous speech for Toastmasters a few years ago.

In short, Toastmasters Clubs develop Public Speaking and Leadership Skills.

I’m getting more involved with Toastmasters this year and to kick off 2017, so I’m excited to announce one of Get a Klu’s favorite clients, Chef Works Inc., has agreed to partner with us to launch a new Toastmasters Club. You can read more about Toastmasters below or by visiting their website.

chefworks-logoThis blog becomes outdated on January 9th as we’ll be hosting our first “mock meeting” where you can learn more about Toastmasters, how a club works overall, how specific meetings are run, what you can get out of it and, of course, how you can contribute to the Club’s success!

toastmasters-logoWHEN: January 9th 2017 at 11:30 a.m.

WHERE: Chef Works Corporation Headquarters is located at 12325 Kerran Street • Poway, CA 92064

WHY: First of all, Toastmasters International is a world leader in communication and leadership development. Members of Toastmasters improve their speaking and leadership skills by regularly giving speeches, gaining feedback, leading teams and guiding others to achieve their goals in a supportive atmosphere. The results are greater self-confidence, personal growth and deepened relationships with fellow club members.

Every meeting of a Toastmasters Club features several different forms of Public Speaking (impromptu and prepared speeches, oral evaluations, functionary reports and more!) and also provides several “leadership” opportunities due to the roles/functionaries that are required to run each meeting.

Secondly, Jeff Klubeck is an International Speaking Trainer and Coach who brings 20 years of experience teaching Public Speaking to the Club. His passion, experience and expertise when it comes to Public Speaking Coaching/Training is an incredible “value add” to the host of benefits Toastmasters offers its members.toastmasters on the big stage

Finally, GREAT networking with fellow friends/clients of Get A Klu as well as the SUPER Chef Works employees who take advantage of this wonderful benefit being provided for them.

Again, we will explain ALL of this to you when you attend the Information Session (“mock meeting”) on Monday January 9th at 11:30 am PST. Make sure to let me know if you can make it. Also feel free to share this event with your friends and colleauges.

If you can’t wait to get the Toastmasters info, feel free to contact Jeff Klubeck directly (jeff@getaklu.net or 619-405-3356) if you have any questions! 

 

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